Everyone’s Gone On Without You

It seems like we are moving closer to the ‘forgetting all about the pandemic’ stage of things in my area. A couple of weeks ago we moved into the next phase of opening back up here, which officially allowed dance studios to resume business partially. As I mentioned in past weeks, some studios already had instructors teaching lessons in those studios under the radar, so this change allowed them to start officially advertising those lessons to the wider public. I’ve seen the notifications that were sent out, and it sounds like everyone is excited to get back to work.

Parties are also starting back up at studios around me. These are still only allowed to have a limited number of people attend, so if you want to go you have to reserve your spot ahead of time. Some of the classes are advertising that you can attend the class virtually if you are not fast enough to secure one of the limited in-person spots. One studio I saw was even going to hold a “Grand Re-Opening” party in a couple of weeks. It’s so weird to think about like that, but I guess that they have been closed for around six months, so this really would be like a reopening of sorts for them.

I am not planning on attending any of these events. While I understand that the organizers are doing their best to keep everyone as safe from exposure as possible, the reason why I’m actually not planning on attending is really… I’m just not interested in going.

Wait, what?

Yeah. To be completely honest here, I’ve had some time to reflect on ballroom dancing in my life, and looking back I have to say that accepting the offer to move into competitive dancing completely and away from just having fun has left this black cloud hanging over me. I’m not excited about the idea of going back to a dance studio anytime soon. Once I opted to move to being a competitive dancer, I spent so much time in studios working on the dancing I had to do for my coach that all of the fun was taken out of it. So even the idea of just going back to the studio for parties and things right now just doesn’t hold much appeal for me.

Since things have opened back up, I have gotten calls from my dance coach. He wanted to know how I was doing, how my dance partner was doing, and when we were going to meet up to start training again. I didn’t have an answer to that. I don’t know if I would want to go back to spending most nights of the week at a dance studio practicing to meet the high expectations that were placed on me as a competitor. It just… doesn’t feel like it would be a good choice.

The farther away I get from the last time I was actually on a dance floor, the less I feel like pulling out my dance shoes and jumping back onto one. There’s something really nice about the more relaxed pace that I have found for my life during the shutdown. I don’t have to worry about rushing out of the office and trying to work out and eat dinner as fast as possible most nights so that I can be someplace else to dance. I have time to just be quiet, to sit on the couch and pet the cat, which I know makes her happy. I can focus during my workouts on the movements that I am doing in the moment rather than trying to remember all the movements I would have to work on during practice after my workout is over. That makes a big difference in how much I enjoy my workouts.

Speaking of workouts… this also means that I don’t have to worry about my weight with all the weightlifting I do. My dance coach was constantly on my case about how big I was. He kept telling me that I needed to get back down to 180 lbs. (I weigh a lot more than that). His reasoning was that my shoulders were too big, so when I held my arms up while in frame I didn’t have a flat line going from elbow to elbow because my shoulder muscles were too big. If I don’t go back to dancing, I can keep all the muscle I already have, or maybe even put on more if I want! Hooray!

So what happens from here? I really don’t know. I’m sure that I will go out dancing again at some point in my future, but it probably won’t be anytime soon. I don’t know if I will continue to try and force myself to update this site once a week like I have done for so many years. If I’m not out dancing, there’s really not much to write about, is there? Maybe if I hear about exciting stuff happening in the world of dance I will make a note of it, but only if I find it amusing. Probably. Who knows?

This will give me time to focus on other things I am writing. Maybe you’ll see those somewhere on the interwebs in the near future, if you lurk around the same places that I do. But those items I write, if I finish them, will not talk about dance. I do have other ideas sometimes, after all.

I’ll still be lurking around from time to time. Feel free to poke me if you want to talk. 🙂

7 thoughts on “Everyone’s Gone On Without You

  1. I’ve enjoyed following your writing. You are not alone in wondering if dance need be a nightly second life. A few of our friends have been forced out of dance and realized that we can do other fun things with the newly free time and money.

    Anyhow, whether you decide to continue writing or not, just know I’ve enjoyed your journey.


    1. Why thank you! I promise this won’t be the end of the dance adventures forever, but I just can’t keep forcing myself to post something every week when there’s nothing much going on to inspire the posts.

      The future is uncertain though, and I’m sure Sparkledancer will want to go out to do something at some point when she’s feeling better. She’s the one person that can always talk me into doing things with her. 😁

      1. Damn straight, skippy! I just make everything more fun, and you wouldn’t want to miss that, would you?

      2. The other male-written blog by FacingDiagonalWall has commented similarly about his scaling back his dance life, and so his posts are fewer and about topics other than dance.

        It’s all just sad. But we are saving money that’s no longer spent on dance.

    1. I haven’t been back to any dance events as of yet. I kind of… stopped paying attention to what was going on in the world of dance around me. For a while I kept hearing stories about people I knew who were still going to parties, ignoring all the safety precautions and traveling out of state to dance at clubs that weren’t requiring them to wear masks or keep apart to stay safe. Then, inevitably, hearing about people getting sick. It got tiresome.

      Until there is a better way to stay safe, I don’t think I will be back to dancing. I know that if I were to catch this virus there’s a pretty good chance that it wouldn’t hit me too hard and I would bounce back, but I just don’t want to end up underestimating things and ending up as one of those people who has serious long-term side effects. Going to a dance party is not worth that to me personally.

      I don’t think worse of people who want to go out though. People are free to make their own choices. Whatever you have decided to do with dance during this pandemic, I hope that it’s been the right decision for you. 🙂

      1. Good to hear from you. I started back up with lessons with wearing masks. But I won’t do any social dancing.
        I just wonder how much all of this will change the dance community? I saw today that a pretty well-known judge/coach passed away from Covid yesterday.

        I actually haven’t checked my blog or other’s posts for a long while and last night randomly went on and saw your post about dancing competitively. I am impressed. Just wanted to say that.

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